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Taking Time to Talk with Your Teenage Kids

Most parents would probably agree that the most difficult stage of parenting is at puberty or during the teenage years of the children.  It is usually at this time when children start to edge their way into independence and assert their own personality.

Issues that involve changes in the body, going out with friends or boys sometimes require parenting advice to be tackled properly.  But, there is a simpler way to minimize differences or conflicts between a parent and a teenager, and that is regular and open communication.

It can be difficult for a parent to walk the talk in keeping regular and open communication lines with their teens.  Parents with tight schedules and surly teens can even make it an impossible scenario.

Here are some of the things that parents can do to foster open talk with their teens and provide them with the proper guidance.

1.       Start them talking early.  Encouraging children to talk and share their feelings with their parents builds trust and confidence between parents and children.

2.       Take time to listen.  There is a big difference in hearing and listening. Understanding what the kids want to convey requires careful listening and sometimes a bit of prompting and to help them express their thoughts better.

3.       Schedule regular family bonding activities.  Having regular meals with the family can be bonding moments where parents and teens can update each other on current interest and activities or talk about light issues.

27 comments found

  1. I once learned that a child larns all it’s valuesa and morals by the age of 7. We just hope that through all the angst of going through puberty ends soon and they return to the values that were tauhgt in childhood.

  2. My step daughter is 10 going on 18 so I think these kind of talks are going to come up soon. We have a great relationship but often it’s hard to know what to say. I appreciate the tips!

  3. Really a nice post about taking time to talk with our teenage kids, we should talk with them understand their issue and resolve them.

    Thanks for the post.

  4. My 16 year old son and I have a wonderful relationship and I have always told him that he can tell me anything!! been crying though today because my little boy is all grown up, he got his driver’s license today. No more Mom to take him where he needs to go anymore!!

  5. My daughter is now 18 and I wish I would have talked more, been there more, I just wanted to be everything to her and always feel I can do more.

  6. I do wish my Mom had done this, her upbringing is a far cry from a modern household- we seldom talk, she’s just like Grandma. This will surely help anyone NOW that they have access with different tips and guides online.

  7. I have a junior in high school and find the best conversations take place in the short rides to school or practice or baseball lessons or whatever it may be. A lot can come out on those rides. Interestingly many of my friends with teens say the same thing

  8. These are some very important tips that you’ve provided. Even having been what I thought was a great mom, my son’s teenage years were extremely difficult!

  9. Each kid is different though, I did the same with both my children, my daughter tells me everything (sometimes too much details), but my son, getting him to talk is like pulling teeth.

  10. Open communication is the key here. Letting them know to talk about things that they wanted to ask is OK and will be answered when asked.

  11. Great advice, I know when I was a teenager I didn’t want to listen to anything my parents told me, looking back I wish I had!

  12. This is something I’ve thought and thought about. Thanks for the post. My kids are 8, 9, and 1 and the time is fast approaching for teen talk.

  13. My kids are grown now. In our home we had no problems with our kids coming to us to talk about anything. They still do to this day. Now I have 2 granddaughters & our daughter is working on building that relationship with them. We always told our kids that no matter what you have done or want to talk about we will would always be there for them. We might not like what we hear but we would always be there with 2 listening ears & open mind

  14. I have three adult kids now, but I would say keep the communication going with them. Like the article said start early, but if you don’t start now. You have to start somewhere. Kids want to know if you care or not!

  15. These are great tips, I have a teen sister who doesn’t have her mother in her life and I try to be the person she talks to

  16. Teenage years were definitely the worse years for a parent. My son is past that now, but these hints would have made those years a lot easier!

  17. So true, I have a 14 year daughter and having a difficult time understanding her, that’s why I am really needing additional patience at this time. ♥

  18. It’s true! Good communication between children and their teenagers will promote understanding. Quality time together through family activities such as having dinner at the same time is a good way to open up conversations.

  19. its scary to think my daughter isnt even into the double digits yet and in this day, we are having these talks with younger and younger girls. I wasnt raised by a very good mother but I try every single day to be the mother my daughter deserves. I want to remain open, honest, and firm. I believe establishing trust with your children will build a better teenager/adult in general.

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